About embracing oneself

Back then when I was in high school, one of my very good friends came to me and wonderingly asked why guys seemed more interested in me despite having so many flickers all over my face. Until then, I had never been asked such a hard question in my life. I don’t remember how I answered back to her but that incident made my self esteem so down. I started feeling awkward whenever any individual used to come near to me in the fear that they would notice my flickered face. I started becoming more conscious. Even if I found someone looking at my face, I had this sensation that s/he would probably be counting how many flickers I had, or deciding which is the biggest of all - anything related to flickers!

I won't lie. I started to search everywhere possible to get rid of this flickered face. I tried many of them too. But they were natural things on me and too stubborn to detach.

"Make your skin fairer and shine bright like no other!"
I think like me everyone of us have heard/seen similar dialogs by a fair skinned model in commercials. I wonder why they promote such unrealistic things. And if you are an average common girl then just like me, you must have bought one of those, tried them for weeks as instructed by the model from the commercials, realized it is not making your dark skin whiter and then bought another one and repeated the same process again. The mistake is ours for not embracing our own skin color.

Because of the darker skin color the girls get objectified. They get nicknamed and often bullied at school in their early teens. They show that the nicknames don't matter while being called, but it does matter. They go back to their home and this nickname thing won't let them sleep or focus on anything. As a result, instead of focusing more on academic stuffs, they focus on making themselves look prettier for which they buy the "beautifying" products in the hope of not looking "the girl with the darker skin." Thus, it affects psychologically too. I have been affected in such way.

Coming to the end of teenage what I have understood is one ought to learn to love the permanent things they own as they are always with us and only by accepting them one could be happy. And things have changed pretty much now as I have embraced the way I am. To be satisfied one must understand that every creature on this earth is beautiful and unique. The body shaming thing is similar. Wanting to look fit that is totally fine, but risking your own health without having a proper diet only worsens the situation. It is really important for girls to be proud of their body, face, most importantly their soul.

I think it is really necessary for young girls to understand that uniqueness is a beautiful thing. It’s you, it’s your face, and it’s what people identify you from, so you must be confident about it by accepting the uniqueness which people call “flaws.”

As to conclude, I am not against those who do make-ups. Even I do it sometimes. Rather my point here is not to feel insecure if something is different in you than other people.  If you accept the way you are and believe you are beautiful from within, you will regain your lost self esteem for sure. Also, beautifying your personality with a good soul will cleanse off all the insecurities you have for your own beauty. As at the end of the day, it is you who are going to matter the most to you. Cheesy it may sound but, girl you’re amazing just the way you are!